#Fiction Monday (241) The will of changing the grief - Vointa de a schimba durerea

This game is hosted by Vinitha Dileep, on her blog  'Reflections' and
I discovered it on Esha's  blog. This time  the  word prompt is 'GRIEF'.

'Mahnirea nu se termina niciodata...
Dar se schimba. Este o trecere, nu un 
loc incare sa stai. Mahnirea nu este un 
semn de slabiciune sau o lipsa de 
credinta... Este pretul dragostei'.

Inevitably we experience moments full of grief. Emotional or physical, our own or others'. 
And then, if this happens anyway, I started to wonder at some point if, apart from enduring 
the suffering and repairing any damages, I could do something useful to overcome unpleasant situations. And looking for possible solutions, I discovered that there are other approaches, focused on clearing the mind by managing strong emotional reactions.
A clear mind can decipher the reasons why something happened, understand the possible 
lesson that I had to learn and if there is an inevitable that I could not have changed by 
anything anyway. 
It seems to me extraordinarily important to understand the cause of a process, of an event. 
And especially if I have also made a contribution to it. In this way, if it is not too late the 
discovery, I can bring a correction, an improvement, a possible subsequent avoidance of a 
similar moment. 
I started to believe in the idea that life sends me lessons, at different times. 
And from the moment this happened, my reporting on events automatically became different. Instead of victimizing myself, I become aware that I am a student in the bank of life. 
And this change of attitude generates many good things, from reducing grief, to discovering solutions. And what seems even more important to me, tempering emotions and fears. 

On February 4th, the Year of the Fire Horse begins. It was also 60 years ago, in 1966. 
Even if this is another topic, I understood that it is an year characterized by a lot of 
dynamism and during it our intentions could manifest much faster. 
So it is worth focusing on solutions and good thoughts and avoiding anchoring in the grief 
of the past or the fear of the future, because only in the present we can solve things faster.

'Nu plange pentru ca s-a terminat.
Zambeste pentru ca s-a intamplat'.

Inevitabil traim momente pline de durere. Emotionale sau fizice, ale noastre sau ale
celorlalti. Si atunci, daca asta se intampla oricum, am inceput la un moment dat sa ma 
intreb daca in afara de a suporta suferinta si de a repara eventuale daune, as mai putea 
face ceva util pentru a depasi situatiile neplacute. Si cautand posibile solutii, am descoperit
ca exista si  alte abordari, concentrate  pe limpezirea mintii prin gestionarea reactiilor
emotionale puternice. O minte limpede poate descifra motivele pentru care ceva s-a intamplat,
intelege eventuala lectia pe care am avut-o de invatat si daca exista un inevitabil pe care 
oricum nu l-as fi putut schimba prin nimic. 
Mi se pare extraordinar de important sa inteleg cauza unui proces, a unui eveniment. Si mai 
ales daca mi-am adus si eu o contributie la el. In felul acesta, daca nu este prea tarzie
descoperirea, pot aduce o corectie, o imbunatatire, o eventuala evitare ulterioara a unui
moment similar. Am inceput sa cred in ideea ca viata imi trimite lectii, in diferite momente.
Si din clipa in care s-a intamplat asta, raportarea mea la evenimente a devenit automat
diferita. In loc sa ma victimizez, devin constienta ca sunt o eleva in banca vietii. 
Si aceasta schimbare de atitudine genereaza multe lucruri bune, de la diminuarea durerii,
pana la descoperirea unor solutii. Si ceea ce mi se pare si mai important, temperarea emotiilor
si a fricilor. 
Pe 4 februarie incepe Anul Calului de Foc. A mai fost si acum 60 de ani, in 1966. Chiar daca 
acesta este alt subiect, am inteles ca este un an caracterizat de mult dinamism si ca intentiile
noastre s-ar putea manifesta mult mai rapid pe parcursul lui. Asa ca merita sa ne concentram 
pe solutii si pe ganduri bune si sa evitam ancorarea in durerile trecute sau in teama de viitor, 
pentru ca doar in prezent putem rezolva lucrurile mai rapid.

'Vezi cum timpul descompune toata durerea'.

'Nu te intrista. Tot ceea ce pierzi
vine la tine intr-o alta forma'.

#Fiction Monda (240) - A new start 

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